How do you know if you are dishonouring your body and your true self?
Do you ever outwardly or inwardly ‘over’react at something, a situation or someone?
Do you use the word should?
Do you feel anxious and/or numb at any time during the day?
Then…. You are unaligned and most likely dishonouring your self.
I understand and appreciate that we can’t ALWAYS be true to or meet our needs and desires, but what we can’t, as a society continue doing is burying, ignoring or putting aside what our soul and body are calling for us to do, be, speak and feel.
When you truly take the time to stop all the noise – of others; of your ego; of your learned and limiting beliefs; of your unrealistic expectations and simply ask yourself what you want or need….. you will be surprised at how direct, easy and insightful your inner knowing can be.
A woman once came to me hating how she was feeling about her body since giving birth to three children. How it wasn't the way it used to be, how it didn't look, function or feel the way it once did and and how the look of it caused her pain and even anger. We also talked about how frustrated she was with how short tempered she was feeling towards her husband. There was no awareness at the time of walking through my door that there was a connection between these two scenarios. But when she stopped, felt in to and asked how she was dishonouring her body, she realised that she never took the time to truly appreciate and acknowledge the strength, capability and beauty of her body. The very body that she grew, nurtured and birthed her beautiful babies with. But rather focused on how her body failed her; how she was disappointed that the choice of how and when she brought her babies into this world was taken from her; how no one else acknowledged the pain and suffering and transformation that she has gone through. All feelings and experiences which are totally valid and true for her. But feelings that would surface and which she would then ignore or dwell on mentally. But when she allowed herself to truly feel into this, in to her body…. She acknowledged these feelings - sat with them - physically and emotionally worked through them – allowed her body to complete the process and release the hold they had on her, she was then free to feel the gratitude she and her body needed to feel, the appreciation and acknowledgement that she sought outside herself and from others. The appreciation and acknowledgement that she was subconsciously seeking from her husband, so much so that when he said something that appeared to go against this need, she reacted and reacted severely (in her words).
It is not about changing the story and her feelings with words, but about letting her feel and be with them, which in turn honoured her feelings and experiences and thus allowed her to change the connection that she had with them. Which then meant she could change her story from pain, loss, weakness to one of love, strength, and appreciation. Not only was this the story of a client of mine, but it is also, so very close to my own experience too…. Once I allowed myself to feel the pain, the frustration, the weakness, the unworthiness, the powerlessness that I felt following birth and becoming a mother, I was finally able to feel the elation, the pride, the gratitude, the acceptance and the love that I had for my family, my body, my being, and my experience. A story I have no doubt that you can relate to, with your own version of pain, suppression and dishonouring.
Our bodies are so capable. So beautiful. And oh so strong.
They hold the answers that we seek, or subconsciously know we need to seek.
We just need to be guided and shown the way to their power.
Someone else won’t change for you to be fulfilled.
Someone else doesn’t need to change for you to be fulfilled.
You just need to open up to your heart, your soul and your body and listen to what needs to be heard, to see what needs to be seen and to feel what needs to be felt.
So, how do you know if you ARE honouring your body and your true self? You feel at peace, joy and being on purpose or at home with the choices, behaviours and feelings that you feel.
I just so badly want people, especially women to know that there IS hope, there IS light, and that there can be change and acceptance, but you need to seek this and be ready for the work.
Are you ready to let go of the things, feelings, experiences and traumas that are holding you back from living your best, most fulfilling and happy life? Are you ready to honour who you truly are and what you truly need and desire?
For end of year sale, book in over the next two Thursdays (23/12/21 and 30/12/21), otherwise I will see you in the new year. Make changes in the new year, clear out the emotional, physiological and body based cobwebs for a clean and happy 'home' in 2022.
Stay tuned to find out how I am honouring myself next year.